Questions and Answers About Laws Concerning Mourning

If someone's relative died and was buried before the holiday, and the mourner observed mourning customs before the holiday begins, even for a short time, the holiday terminates his shiva. The holidays to which this rule applies are the three festivals – Passover, Shavuot, and Sukkot – and Rosh Hashanah, and Yom Kippur.

The days of the holiday are counted as part of the shloshim, and the shloshim therefore ends 30 days after the burial.

If the 30th day falls on the Sabbath, the cemetery is visited on either the Friday before the 30th day or the Sunday after the 30th day. If the 30th day falls on Shavuot or on the last day of Sukkot or Passover, the grave is visited on the day following the holiday. If the 30th day falls on the first day of Passover or Sukkot, the visit is brought forward to the day before the holiday. If the 30th day falls on Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur, the visit is postponed to the day after the holiday, and neither the Kel Malei Rachamim prayer nor the Ashkava prayer is recited.